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I'm not sure how many of you remember this phrase (the title). It was back in 2006, I would say it was April, and the drums guy confused me with a student, go figure! Anyway, maybe it was my fault, I was talking to different groups around me in an effort to direct your attention to him and not to your friends. At the end I was the one who got yelled!
I bet some of you are thinking, "ok Velez, where are you going with this?" Not too far. Last week I spoke with a few of you from "few years ago". I was surprised to hear that many of you are not friends anymore (well, not really surprised, because it always happens, but dissapointed). For those of you who just met, its not shooking to hear you are no longer friends. Its actually pretty normal. But please, some of you have been together since you were in elementary, that is a true friendship.
Are you "socializing" with the right people? I hope you are because hanging out with the "right" people will help you to get to the "right" place. Ask yourself; Am I hanging out with people who are helping me to be a better person? If your answer is yes, then, go in peace, you have my blessing.
Much love!
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ok, well your talking about getting to the "right" place, but how do you know where your "right" place is?
i mean, i love my friends, they got me through some things, and i would hate to move to texas and then come back and not have them. BUT, then again, TEXAS could be MY "right" place, but then again so could my HOME. so my question is how do you know its your "right" place?
The right place is a place where you can grow as a person, a place where you not always feel confortable but challenged. When you get to be confortable you lose interest, take things for granted. Maybe TX is the right place for you, maybe not; but you owe it to yourself. Why not try it? Why not give TX a chance? Maybe there you'll find a purpose and a challeged, maybe Michigan is already too confortable for you.
Real friends will be there for you, en la distancia, but there. See, Lila, the problem with having friends in high school is that, because it is a time of change, many change for good and many for disaster. As a friend, you should not reject them, but embrace their new them. Even if they are doing weird things, you know you cant reject them.
When you go to TX, you'll be able to select your friends. Behind will be all those mixed feelings about rejecting old friends, and love them "just the way they are". Here, in your new life, you can just smile and reject "in your mind" those individuals who wil lnot help you to grow.
Am I making any sense to you?
Bella, your place, thus far, is by your mother. Time goes by so quickly and to see her happy will be your greatest reward. I think you owe this change to yourself. You've gone through a lot, why not change the way things are? I know its scary, but maybe you'll find new light, a new purpose. I had a hard time getting used to the idea of living Puerto Rico, I knew no English, I only knew my husband, and I knew I was going to struggle to make new friends, good ones. But I tell you, I dont regret coming here. I dont think I ever will... give it a chance bella!
Ok, I have alot of great friends and I've gone thru alot with all of them and I know who my real friends are but even knowing who the fake ones are I cannot stop being friends with them and I have no clue why!I know that I shouldn't be friends with them because they are obviously very fake but I feel as if I am to nice to just say "I can't be your friend anymore" please help me Ms.Velez!!!!!
My beautiful Haley, I just read your message... it is very difficult to stop a friendship that is guiding you to "la-la land" (meaning, nowhere), the cool thing about these type of "friends" is that, if you stop giving them you time, they will eventually "go away!" This is how it works: Real friends will stay with you no matter what, even if you dont call them every day, even if you cant see them every day, you know that when you call, or when they call, you'll be there for them, your friendship will always be the same. Fake friends, on the other hand, will just "fade" if they dont have your constant attention, or, even worst, when they cant get anything else from you. Does that make sense?
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